hey there! i'm 15, trans* (identifying as male), and asexual. basically, i was dating a guy for four months and broke up about a month ago. he was one of my best friends beforehand, which is apparently weird (people don't know each other well before going out?). i've only really ever had one crush - which was big - but apart from that, nothing. given my breakup, i was wondering if i'm aro, or just trying to convince myself i don't need romance? (please, do be honest. i can handle it c: )
Anonymous askedOnly you can decide your aromantic orientation. Since it’s pretty much all about feelings, and I can’t decide what you feel for you, there’s only so much I can do. However, it does sound to me like you’re probably somewhere on the aro spectrum. You could be a grey aromantic, if not just aromantic.
Give yourself time, and think about what you feel. If you decide that you don’t feel romantic attraction anymore, then you’re aromantic.
Adopt whatever labels you feel best fit you, and remember that it is okay if your identity changes in the future. So long as you’re honest with yourself, it should all work out fine.
