Answer 13
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Posted 10 months ago
What are romance-repulsed repulsed of? Are they repelled by certain gestures and actions, if so by what kind of actions?
Anonymous asked

What specifically repulses romance-repulsed aros is different for each person. If you want to figure out what gestures and actions repulse a certain person, you will have to ask that person. 

Answer 53
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Posted 10 months ago
So I am in a long distance relationship with a great person. The problem is everytime I get into a relationship, I always get this weird feeling after a certain amount of time where I feel that I would rather just be alone. I am asexual and I'm beginning to feel that I am also aromantic. The problem is that I don't want to hurt this person, but I'm starting to feel unhappy in the relationship. It's starting to feel like a chore. Any advice on what to do?
Anonymous asked

It sounds like you should end the relationship. You can also try talking with your partner about your feelings and seeing if that could help, but staying in a relationship that feels like a chore isn’t good for you or your partner. 

I was in a very similar situation, and I stayed in the relationship because I didn’t want to hurt that person. It hurt us both a lot more than breaking up would have. 

Answer 18
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Posted 10 months ago
There was an anon who said they tried googling aromantic, but it automatically corrects to 'a romantic'. If you search aromantic within quotation marks ("aromantic") it doesn't correct it. xx
Anonymous asked
Answer 5
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Posted 10 months ago
Hello! I had some questions regarding a previous confession I had to a friend and she said That she doesnt really experience romancy feelings or anything like that could that mean she's a aromantic or no?? Sorry if this is really rude question Also what could i do to get over this? >~<
Anonymous asked

I’m so sorry, but I am the worst person to ask about getting over romantic feelings. I don’t know what it’s like to have a crush on someone, so I have no experience in getting over romantic feelings. I really cannot help you there.

As for your friend, she could be aromantic, but no one can label her orientation but her. Just because a person doesn’t experience romantic attraction doesn’t mean they have to identify as aromantic. It is completely up to her to choose whatever labels she feels fit her best, or choose not to label her feelings at all. 

Answer 63
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Posted 10 months ago
Kind of random but the band Of Monsters and Men has this song called "Love Love Love", and the lyrics express a lot of common aro sadnesses around feeling like you've hurt or lost people by being unable to romantically reciprocate. I relate to the song a lot and thought others might want to check it out.
vr8skapologist asked
Answer 40
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Posted 10 months ago
hi is it possible to be aromantic but not asexual?? bc i know im definitely not asexual but i think i might be aromantic? whats the difference?? like im sexually attracted to people but like, not romantically?? idk im so confused
Anonymous asked

It is 100% possible to be aromantic and still experience sexual attraction. Romantic attraction and sexual attraction are two separate things, it’s very possible to experience either one without the other. I have had a good number of aromantic allosexuals, which means someone who is sexually attracted to other people, in my inbox. You are not the only person who feels like this.

Text 40
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Posted 10 months ago

Aromantic Pride Flag

I noticed that the aromantic pride buttons at mypridebuttons are based off the old flag design, so I made one using this flag. 

The code is <img src=“http://s27.postimg.org/k6ee3m1n3/Aro_Pride_Button.png”>

Answer 25
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Posted 10 months ago
I was thinking about the black ring that asexuals wear on their right middle finger, and I saw an aro saying that they wear a black ring on their left ring finger (the place where a wedding ring should go) and maybe we could make this a thing? I feel like there aren't many signs (if there are at all) for aromantic people, so if we did this it could help in a way?
queenlokibeth asked

I hadn’t actually heard that aces wear their black rings on any specific finger, so I feel like using a black ring might confuse some people, but it is an idea worth considering. 

Answer 19
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Posted 10 months ago
I saw an anon wondering if they were aromantic or not because they had has crushes in the past, and hopefully they'll see this because I was in the same situation. I haven't had an actual crush in like 6 years and the ones I had before were probably "platonic" crushes or something so before coming out I was really confused, but yeah, I'm definitely aromantic. Hopefully this helps!
queenlokibeth asked
Answer 9
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Posted 10 months ago
My best friend recently confessed to having feelings for me, even going so far as to break up with his current girl friend because he wanted to ask me out, and I have no idea how to tell him that I'm aromantic (and asexual). Any advice that could help?
Anonymous asked

I don’t know you or your friend, so the advice I can give is both limited and general, but I would suggest that you tell him in a location that you’re both comfortable in. I would also suggest you have at least some idea of what you’re going to say beforehand, even if you use next to none of it in the actual conversation. Having a plan can help make the experience less stressful for you. 

I would also suggest that you give him some space after the conversation to deal with his own feelings. I find people get over their feelings easiest when they don’t interact with you for a while, though your circumstance with your friend might be different.

As for the actual conversation, be very clear about what you want, and what you don’t want. The last thing you need is for him to get the impression that you’re not interested in a relationship now, so he should try again later. 

Good luck!